How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You
CONTEMPORARY BOOKS A TRIBUNE COMPANY
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Lowndes, Leil. How to make anyone fall in love with you / Leil Lowndes. p. cm. Includes bibliographical references and index. ISBN 0-8092-3211-1 1. Love. 2. Man-woman relationships. 3. Intimacy (Psychology) 4. Sexualexcitement. I. Title. HQ801.L69 1996 306.7—dc20 96-14502 CIP
Jacket design by Scott Rattray Interior design by Mary Lockwood Excerpt from Obsession: Copyright © 1995 by Debra McCarthy-Anderson and Carol Bruce-Thomas. All rights reserved. Reproduced with the permission of the publisher, Harlequin Books S.A. Copyright © 1996 by Leil Lowndes All rights reserved Published by Contemporary Books An imprintof NTC/Contemporary Publishing Company Two Prudential Plaza, Chicago, Illinois 60601-6790 Manufactured in the United States of America International Standard Book Number: 0-8092-3211-1 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1
To fulfill the promise of the title, How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You offers 85 techniques based on scientific studies into the nature of romantic love.
CONTENTS1 Anyone? Yes, Practically Anyone
Science "Discovers" Sex How More Research Was Compiled How the Techniques Were Developed How I Tested the Techniques
1 2 4 5 7 9
2 What Makes People Fall in Love? The Six Elements
What Makes People Fall in Love? The Six Elements
I. First Impressions II. Similar Character, Complementary Needs III. Equity IV. Ego V. Early-Date Gender-Menders VI. Rx forSex
9 10 11 12 13 14 17 17 17 18 19
3 The Physical Side of Falling in Love
"Why Do My Insides Go All Funny?" "Does Somebody Have to Be Pea-Brained to Fall in Love with Me?" "Why Do We Fall in Love with One Person and Not Another?" "How Can These Little Things Start Love?"
4 Where Are All the Good Men and Women?
Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places
23 23 25
5 DoesLove at First Sight Exist? Part One: First Impressions You Never Get a Second Chance at Love at First Sight 6 How to Make a Dynamite First Impression
First Impressions Last Forever
First Impressions Last Forever Be Ready for Love—Always! Stay Psychologically "Fit to Kill"
29 30 32 35 37 39 41 42 45 45 46 49 50 53 53 56 57 60 61 61 62
7 How to Ignite Love at First Sight
How MuchEye Contact Does It Take to Imitate Love? How to Get Sexy "Bedroom Eyes" How to Awaken Primal, Unsettling, Sexy Feelings in Your Quarry Naughty Eyes Are So Nice
8 Your First Approach
The Gentle Art of Pickup (Not for Men Only) Hunters, Make the First Move . . . Fast Huntresses, Make the Fast Move . . . First First Moves That Work for Women
9 Your First Body Language
Let Your Body Do theTalking When You Are Quarry The Word That Can Save Your Relationship "But This Is So Basic!"
10 Your First Conversation
Conversation Is Making Beautiful Music Together Conversation Is Like Making Love
Conversation Is Like Making Love Conversation Is Like Selling How to Know What Topics Turn Your Quarry On
62 62 65
How to Fool Your Quarry into Thinking You Two Are Already inLove Get Even Closer by Giving the Gift of Intimacy Make Your Lifestyle "Fit" Your Quarry's Lovemap
68 70 71 75 75 76 77 79 80 82 82 84 85 87 87
11 Your First Date
The Game Begins in Earnest "How Soon Should I Make My Move?" "Playing Hard to Get—Should I, or Shouldn't I?" The Scientifically Proved Best First Date Give Your Quarry First-Date Butterflies Plant the Seeds of SimilarityFirst-Date Restaurant Smarts Hunters, Some Spit and Polish for Your P's and Q's Huntresses, Forgive His Foibles First-Date Duds "I Haven't Got a Thing to Wear"
Part Two: Similar Character, Complementary Needs I Want a Lover Just Like Dear Old Me (Well, Almost)!
Want a Lover Just Like Dear Old Me (Well, Almost)! 12 "It's You and Me, Baby, Alone Against This Mad, Mad World"
Similarity . . . and a...